Gratitude makes us happier. It may sound like some sort of new age-mumbo jumbo, but the fact is that research shows that we become happier in our relationships as well as in life in general if we remind ourselves to be grateful, especially in our relationships.
Recently, the entire United States celebrated Thanksgiving, a weekend unique to them. To feel and show their gratitude has proven to give higher quality to our conditions. Thanking not only makes you happy, it also makes you feel more satisfied with the relationship. It may be easy to believe that those who show gratitude simply feel better because they have a kinder partner, but studies have shown that those who feel that they are in debt to their partner feel less satisfaction with their relationship. Even people who began to express gratitude only after being asked to do so as part of the experiment experienced increased satisfaction with their relationships, even though they had no habit of doing so before. Something that shows that gratitude itself is important.
Works in all relationships
The positive effect of gratitude is not limited to love relationships but includes all forms of relationships. Another study that looked at students who were members of student nations showed that new members who showed gratitude to older members for the gifts they gave experienced higher quality in their relationship with them even later. So regardless of who it is, it is appropriate to express their gratitude – if nothing else, because it makes you happier. Besides that and that makes others happy, it can also make you a better person.
Gratitude gives compassion
Gratitude has also been shown to have an effect on morally questionable behavior. In one study, one group was reminded of an opportunity when they felt gratitude, while another group was thinking of a neutral memory. At the same time, they were told that they would perform two tasks, one fun and one less fun and one of them they would delegate. Among those who remembered something neutral, as much as 80 percent delegated the less fun task, while among those who remembered an occasion when they felt gratitude, the split was 50/50. It is something of gratitude that increases our sense of fair play and our willingness to cooperate. Yet another group that was encouraged to feel pride was as happy as the gratitude group, but as likely to delegate the less fun task as those who thought of a neutral memory. It not only links altruism to joy, but to gratitude.
Thank you for everyone’s best
Whoever gets a thank you for what it does to others also becomes more inclined to help not only the person who thanked them again but also to help others. Behind this effect lie two of our main needs as people on the emotional and mental plane. Our need to feel capable and that we are capable of something and that we need to feel togetherness and be needed by others. Appreciation for our helpfulness fulfills both of these needs, partly because we get confirmation that we are capable of providing requested help and partly because we feel valued and appreciated by others. So if someone helps you, be sure to thank, it makes the person who helped you feel capable and valued a feeling that makes them more likely to help more and spread more joy.